Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Lea's challenge

"What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us." ~Helen Keller

This challenge took some thought for me and it is a really good quote. I have grown up in a small town and all my family live here. One of the things I really enjoyed was in the summer I would stay with my grandmother during the day because my Mom worked. My grandmother never got her drivers license so we stayed at her house most of the time. My grandfather would take us on Fridays to town for her to get her hair fixed and then we would go buy groceries. He was a carpenter so some of the time he worked in his shop out back building things for people. I remember when she and I would go pick blueberries and then make jelly out of them. She would also sew my barbie dolls blankets, clothes and even made them pillows. They had chickens and on occasion she would ring one of their necks and we would have very fresh chicken and dumplings. They had dogs, cats, cows and chickens at their house. My other grandparents only had baby chicks. That grandfather liked to go fishing a lot! He even had molds that he made his own worms to fish with. He was the first grandparent that passed away. He had smoked since he was 12 and he died of lung cancer. I remember asking him to stop and he would for awhile. The next grandparent I lost was the other grandfather, he had congestive heart failure. Then I just had both my grandmothers. I couldn't wait to have a child to get to know them, but things don't always go as we plan. I tried to have a baby for 7 years and then we started having marriage problems and got divorced. I then met my wonderful husband and although he didn't know my grandfathers he did get to know my grandmothers. When he and I found out we were having a baby I was so excited and so happy. The same month that I found out I was pregnant one of my grandmothers found out she had cancer. The other grandmother wasn't doing good either. We had to have sitters sit with my grandmother and one Saturday I sat with her and she was so sick. She died when I was 3 months pregnant the other grandmother died 1 month after my daughter was born. I have pictures of my daughter, my mom, my grandmother and me the day we came home from the hospital. I can't wait till my daughter is old enough to tell her about her great grandmothers and all the fun that her uncle and I had at their houses.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

This is so heartfelt, I am glad I got the chance to read it! I have a wonderful relationship with all my grandparent's, and I think it will be really hard when it comes their time to go. Reading this makes me realize that you have to look back at all the amazing times you had with them.